No “But” Allowed

Marriage is not easy and anyone who says it is is either lying, on Prozac, or are married to a robot. I’m not saying it’s horrible but it does require daily work. Days, I love my husband with ever fiber in my body and other days God knows if I could put him out of his misery and not have to answer to God or the police I would.

I don’t deem myself a quitter BUT I do believe in yielding a return on my investments and when it appears as though I’ll be at a “loss” if I continue to invest, I be quick to want to protect my

“gains”. But when I’m not looking at my marriage like it’s part of my investment pro-folio, I realize that in this union there is no room for “but”.

Now, I’m not talking about “butt” or “nookie” whatever your partner likes to call it, I’m talking about being in it for the long haul without allowing yourself the option outside of being successful. When we place a “but” after a positive statement it just allows for a way out. “I love you BUT this isn’t working” “It was great in the beginning BUT my feelings have changed” “He was sexy BUT now, physically he isn’t the same” I mean I could go on a no on.

Now for obvious reasons, I’m not talking about the one who you shouldn’t have married in the first place (yea, you knew he wasn’t the one yet you did it anyways) I’m guilty of that scenario as well. I’m talking about the one who may not be perfect but he tries. May not have ALL your checklist marked off but is willing to keep putting his best foot forward. The one that probably loves you more than anyone else has shown but still is not perfect. Unless you marrying Jesus that last one just wouldn’t be possible anyways.

But all jokes aside, if you have ever said, “I want my marriage to be successful BUT” remove that “but” out of your mouth! (I was trying to be serious here Queens, take your minds out the gutter!) Let us not keep providing ourselves an option. Let’s not keep giving ourselves a false positive and just remain positive. Speak those things as if they were. Engage in your marriage as if you saw your spouse with the same loving eyes that Jesus views them. Pray over your husband. He would give you the world if he could yet your not even willing to give him your “draws” IJS!